As I write this, I still cannot believe that 2018 is over. Surely I can’t be the only one who is thinking, “where did the year go?”. This past year was a really adventurous for me, I started the year as a single mother and finished it back in relationship with the father of my children. I developed myself, accepted forgiveness in my heart and challenged myself in order to do what was right for myself and my family.
In April I returned to work after 13 months on maternity leave and had to adjust to many workplace changes. These took me outside of my comfort zone and made me question my ability to do my job, making me feel a sense of misplacement. I was blessed to receive paid forward coaching support from Yellow Life Coaching, who knew me when I passionately started working on the project that I currently manage. This went a long way to helping me to change my self beliefs. Her support ensured my affirmations were positive and reminded me of the remarkable achievements that I had accomplished over the past seven years.
Ri, my new born baby developed and grew into a lively, curious and loving toddler, who is keen to experience and learn. He emulates his older brother Ru and is passionate about bananas ( otherwise known as yayas), dancing and singing.
Ru graduated from pre-School, started Reception (he looks so cute in his uniform), obtained his first martial arts belt and began reading books. When I reflect on the developments of these little people, I am in awe. There is literally no fear, there are no thoughts about what could happen – its just a let’s try and see. As their mother, I love the carefree nature of my sons, I want them to know their are no boundaries except those that are self imposed and to a degree I want to be like them.
The biggest thing I learnt in 2018 is something I already knew but needed to be reminded.
“I control my thoughts, feelings and future. It is my decisions, actions and choices that determine my pathway and whatever anyone may attempt to do or say – I always have the power, means and determination to choose the outcome.” Juli Browne, January 2019
Whilst being a single mother on half pay, I managed to accomplish many items on my Family Bucket list that I wrote last year. To refresh your memory I have updated it and placed it below.
Mummy, Ru and Ri bucket list is as follows:
- Go to a family festival
- Visit CBEEBIES Land
Take the boys on a family holiday Have a girly break Go to a spa break Visit Mersea Island and rent a beach hut
- Eat at Bob Bob Ricard
- Eat at Duck and Waffle
- Go to a country park and have a scavenger hunt and picnic
Visit the London Aquarium Visit the postal museum
- Undertake the 365 saving challenge aka 1p saving
- Enroll on a course and learn something new
Listen to audio boo ks
- Do a course to learn about investing
Start, manage and maintain a share club Take the boys on a day trip to the beach Take Ru ice skating Experience Reggae Brunch
- Take part in the Colour Run
- Practice gratitude for at least 21 days
Undertake a 3 day detox Go to afternoon tea
- Take the boys camping
Launch my blog and update regularly
Despite limited funds I paid for a family holiday to Spain, I took them to CentreParcs, visited a number of museums of the list, started listening to audio books (My first book was the Barefoot Investor and I’m currently listening to Becoming – Michelle Obama), amongst other things.
Again for 2019, I am not setting any goals. I will continue working through my Family Bucket List and probably add on a few more experiences. Personally I have set myself a number of challenges for the year which include:
- To feed my family for £25 per week until April 2019
- To not buy my children any toys for the year
- To practice meditation daily (even if only for 5 mins)
- To ensure I nourish and take care of myself – so I have a full tank to care for others
- Practice the Barefoot Investor
The challenges I want to overcome are partly to save money, but also ensure that my family’s focus is away from consumerism and materialism. As Ru grows I am desperately trying to ensure that he does not focus on instant gratification and the need to want and owe but to appreciate all of the amazing things that are the now or currently owed. In addition I find I take care of myself physically, but often neglect my mental health which is just as important. I hope to blog about all of my challenges so that you can follow my journey.
For me I felt like 2018 was growing period. A chance to learn and develop skills that I had long forgotten I had.
For 2019, I will be owning it!!
I hope you all had a fabulous break and I wish you all an amazing 2019 – I know mine will be. x
What are your plans for 2019? Are you glad 2018 is over – have you set goals? Please feel free to comment below.
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